My Boyfriend/Girlfriend Dumped Me Out of the Blue - Tips to Survive
So, he was very good with you, and out of the blue he dumped you, you can not find any explanation of what happened, you found yourself lonely again, with no boyfriend, how could you survive this emotional turmoil if you don't know why did it happen? Or never went through this before?
I know it is too hard situation to deal and one wants help, and I want to offer help because the first time I went through this I wanted someone to help me, so here are some tips to survive it when your friend dumped you out of the blue.
- Forget about it, you don't need to talk about it to anyone who meet you anyweren , train , bus or in the office, think about the good things that happened to you after he had dumped you, at least you would save some money you were saving to get him a gift, buy yourself a new outfit, get a new hair cut or go on a shopping spree.
- Make a change in your life, you have plenty of free time now after he had dumped you, consider it as a blessing, get a new hobby, take some Yoga classes, join the gym, you will find many activities you can do, you will gain confidence from your fast progress in your new hobby and you will feel the positive energy overwhelming your soul.
- Make a party, gather all of your friends and start a party, talk about news, the latest celebrity gossip, watch a movie, play board games, chat with your friends and they might make it easy on you, they might tell you their real opinion about your ex boyfriend like if he was an idiot and you deserve someone better, you will have fun and get some support from your friends.
- Collect anything that reminds you of him and get them out of your sight,. if you had his photos all over your place, pack them and put them in the attic, you must prepare the scene to forget about him at least in this period.
- Try dating again, you must do it in a casual way like you are just having fun and passing time, you do not have to be serious with the new guy, you just want someone to help you forget about your ex boyfriend, if he was the one who dumped you out of the blue then you do not need to wait for him or respect his feelings.
- If you just can't handle it, try to drain your emotions, cry on your pillow when U R alone, write your feelings on the paper, and remember, life is full of opportunities, may be it was a blessing and he dumped you because you deserve someone better than him, do not look at the empty part of the glass, there are many other glasses that are full!
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How to Win Heart Back Again - Stupid Mistakes You Should Never Do
Most people make horrible mistakes when they try to get back the lost love, because we do not have rule book of the things we should and we should not do. All the advice we get are general and superficial. In order to win her heart back, you do not want to make things worse, that means no stupid mistakes are allowed.
If you refrained from these popular horrible mistakes I will tell you in a second, your chances of winning his/her heart back again will be doubled or tripled at least.
- Keep the famous no-contact rule
I think this rule is the most talked about, yet the least applied in break up situations. Do not text, call, e-mail or stalk your ex friend at any cost, at least at the first few days or weeks of the break up. He/She might need some space at this time, so if you kept calling he/ she might find you a real pain in the rear.
- Do not show you are desperate or needy.
Yes, you need to curb your true feelings in front; you can weep till your pillow is soaked or ask why he/she had dumped you only if you are behind closed doors and alone. But when you see him/her, you have to pretend that you are really moving on, living the life and having new activities and friends to hang up with.
- Do not apologize constantly promising that you are going to change.
Remember that your ex knows about you, He/she would not be fooled if you kept apologizing for everything, even if it was not your fault, He/she might think you are doing that because you want to win him/her heart back again with any cost. Promising to change is not only a job of mouth; if you are really willing to change then it must show in your behavior and actions. Do not underestimate your ex friend's intelligence by saying thing you do not intend to do.
- Do not blame anyone or anything else for the breakup.
Some people like to escape from the responsibility, they hang all their failure on other people or on the circumstances, and sometimes they accuse fate. Do not say, "It is not my fault or your fault". Take responsibility and be open with your ex friend. The most necessary step to win your ex friend heart back again is to rebuild trust between both of you.
-Men will look at women until they die, they can't help it. It is built within their operating system, if you get mad when he looks at other women he might just look at them to tease you, or he will take a sneak peek from time to time, just ignore him.
Some women think that their men find other women more attractive, but the simple truth is that men are attached to the physical looks more than women. And they generally have visual characteristic.
You cannot build trust if you believe something mysterious ruined your relationship, He/she will find you childish and dreaming. Just avoid those killer mistakes, and you will find soon how to win heart back again, and it should not be that difficult.
(Few Extract from a mail received and and ezinearticles.com)
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